There isn't really any solution to
avoiding a broken heart. Even marrying the first person you ever
loved, there will be some level of heartbreak even after marriage.
Then there's the times you fall in love
with someone who was never more than a friend – yet you both wanted
it to go further. Those times when you fall in love so fast you
barely have time to blink before you realize you disagree wildly and
vehemently on just a few issues, yet those few being some of the
biggest marriage dealbreakers one can have.
And you wonder, “Should I stay and
hold on, or just walk away?” “Should I pray for his mind to be
changed, or just assume that's a useless endeavor?”
You talk, and talk, and debate, and
discuss. You push and pull and hope beyond hope that they will see
the error of their beliefs, or that your errors will be revealed.
Yet after a few months, you realize it
just won't work. A load of bricks drops on your hopes, your dreams.
Why? Why, Lord? Why bring the
potential perfect spouse, yet it's someone I could never marry?
Then
it ends, just as quickly as it began, one broken heart more and one
best friend less. What could you have done differently, how could you
have avoided it all?
The
sad and incredibly true answer is that... you couldn't have. Feelings
already spiraling out of control even before the pertinent issues
were discussed – on the 4th
day of the friendship. It was crazy, and terrible, and fun and
heartbreaking.
So,
moral of the story, kids! Try not to fall in love with someone who
you disagree with on incredibly important doctrinal issues. :P
